Friday, 28 November 2014

Tuesday, 25 November 2014

The Power of Presence

All pain, frustration, sadness and anger stems from something that we focus on in the past or the future.  If we are truly in the present moment and embracing the very essence of who we are in the now, we experience a bliss that words can't describe. There is sense of liberation that allows us to build true relationships, tap into our god-like creativity/potential and experience true joy and happiness.


We have all been guilty of spending far too much time worrying about the future based on our experiences in the past.  Spending too much time worrying about these time based experiences mean that you end up forgetting about putting your energy into the most precious moment the Present moment!  Think about this for a second has there ever been a time in your life where it hasnt been the present moment?  Of course not!  We are always physically in the present moment, but our minds are constantly travelling between the past and the future fearing what has happened and then using those experiences to then create anxiety about the future. 

So start now and give yourself the gift of spending more time maximising the enjoyment of the now.  When you are with your loved ones, dont be thinking about work, be present and loving for them. Spend time in nature, see the beauty of the trees, the sound of the birds, the soft breeze brushing off your face.  By all means, have a clear vision of your future, but pour your heart and soul into the present moment and watch the creative energy flow J 

Always remember, yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery but the present moment is a gift!

Monday, 24 November 2014

Change your Focus - Rethink your To-Do List

If we want to achieve extraordinary results and fulfillment, we need more than just time management systems. We need a new system of thinking, a way to focus immediately on the results that are most important to us in our lives. Instead of focusing on what it is we need to do, we should first focus on what it is we really want
We must think in terms of results—the R in Anthony Robbins’ Rapid Planning Method.
Having a clear result or outcome and consistently focusing on it immediately changes your behavior.
For example, can you remember the last time you were caught up in an argument? Maybe you forgot what you were even arguing about—yet you knew inside you had to win! What if, in the middle of that argument, you asked yourself, “What result do I really want from this?” You would have realized that your outcome was not to argue, but to create a resolution. This simple shift in focus would have immediately changed the direction of the communication, and would have likely moved you from a state of arguing toward a focus on resolution.

Remember: Whatever you focus on, you will feel and experience at a stronger level. If you focus on why you have so many problems in your life, you will surely be able to come up with a long list of reasons. If you focus on all the activities that are keeping you busy, you’ll find yourself continuously adding more and more to your list.
Focus on the results you are committed to, and you’ll find yourself consistently moving toward the result you’re after—and very often accomplishing them with a much shorter to-do list than you expected.


Sunday, 23 November 2014

Friday, 21 November 2014

Best Methods to Build Rapport - Anthony Robbins

Give Yourself Permission to be Happy!

I love this question. I often ask my clients this. Usually they tell me they aren't very happy and it always makes me sit up straight. Why are they unhappy? What could be making them unhappy? From my perspective they have thriving businesses, healthy families, and lots of things going well for them. I know this because we start our coaching sessions with celebrations and accomplishments. So for them to later say that they aren't very happy always takes me by surprise.
It turns out they didn't get a client they thought there were going to get, their day didn't go as planned, they got a bill they forgot about, something was more money than they expected. At home, their kids aren't behaving, their husband isn't cooperating or something is going on that they don't like. Some have sickness in their families or in themselves. Whatever it is, it's bringing them down from feeling like they can be happy.
I try to teach them that their happiness is directly related to how they feel about themselves and the world around them. It's how they see all the things that are in their life (or not) and how they feel about them. And this goes for you too.
Say you are trying to lose weight, and are taking steps to do so, but are not seeing much progress. Yet your gym buddy is shedding the pounds faster than you can say "hey". In this scenario you might feel bad about yourself, which in turn will make you feel like you are not happy. But wait a minute... what if you were to congratulate your gym buddy, be happy for her and be happy with what you have accomplished so far? Do you think that might shift you away from feeling bad? You bet! What happens is you now take the focus off of her and the judging of yourself off of you, and put your attention on yourself and what you have done.
Happiness really comes from our feelings, which comes sometimes from our perceptions, thoughts, beliefs, patters, behaviors and experiences.
Stop for a moment and ask yourself, "In this moment, what am I feeling?" One of the things that I have been practicing, as well as sharing with my clients -- and pretty much everyone because I think it's so impactful -- is a line in Eckhart Tolle's book the Power of Now. He says "Focus your attention on the Now and tell me what problem you have at this moment." It's insightful because if you truly focus on the Now, you can't have a problem. A problem usually is born when we are in the future and thinking about what might happen to us or others.

In order to be happy more of the time, be in your present moment because that is all you have. If you have a moment that isn't to your liking, then do something about it. Make a change, take an action, do something. Simply by changing how we think and feel, we can change the experience we have.
Let me give you an example. I had a relative that was sick for a long time -- I'm talking months in and out of the hospital. Things needed to be done, meetings held with the medical staff, organization of personal bills, and care for the house and such. There were a lot of drop-everything-and-race-to-the-hospital moments. It was stressful and, no, I was not happy for many reasons. My relative whom I love was sick and in pain, I had to put my own life and business on hold for days sometimes, and I had to say no to a lot of opportunities both in my personal life and business because we needed to care for our relative. So when I asked myself if I was happy, the answer was no.
Then I realized I was not living in my Now! Instead I was living in the land of the "what ifs" -- and not the what-if-something-great-happens. I recognized that I never have a problem in my Now. My problems arise when I set foot outside of Now and go into Future. I realized I could be happy when I went the hospital and that absolutely helped my sick relative as I wasn't bringing all my doom and gloom in when I visited. Of course, it helped me feel better and all of a sudden, things around me started to look better.
We only have one life to live. It's important for us to remember that we are the driver of our life and we have a right to be as happy as the next person. So pay attention to your feelings, your thoughts, your actions... and take note. "Am I happy? What do I need to let go of in order to be happy? Is it a feeling? Is it a thought? Is it an action?"
Today, give yourself permission to be happy -- as happy as you want -- because it's the greatest gift you give to yourself, those around you and the world.
Kim Ravida, ACC, ELI-MP is the owner and founder of Kim Ravida Coaching. Kim is a Certified Profit First Professional and Small Business Secret Weapon Business Coach who works with women in business to take a customized approach to create a business that fits their lifestyle, has them seeing a monthly profit and operating from a position of confidence so that they experience more success and less stress.Find free resources at
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Thursday, 20 November 2014

Get on Top of Your Stress and Anxiety!

Master Your Emotional Health and Master Your Life

Emotional mastery is the key to living a life that you direct. The capacity to have absolute direct power over what you feel in every single moment—no matter what happens around you—is one of the most important skill sets you can have.
There are three forces in the world that determine what you feel. These forces are called the Triad. Together, these three patterns create any—and every—emotional state.
Whatever you feel, you’re not feeling it because you have to feel it. You’re feeling it because you’ve chosen from the Triad. In order to master your emotions and consciously choose the emotions you want to live in, you need to understand these three forces and how to use them to your advantage.

#1: Physiology

Emotion is created by motion. Whatever you’re feeling right now is directly related to how you’re using your body. If you slump your shoulders and lean your head forward, you’ll move toward a state of depression. However, the next time you find yourself in a negative state, stand up, throw your shoulders back and take a few deep breaths. You’ll find that you’re able to put yourself in a resourceful state. From this state, you can make stronger decisions and enjoy a sense of certainty that will keep you calm in the face of uncertainty.

#2: Language

Language comes in many forms, one of which includes the questions you ask yourself, either aloud or inside your head. If you ask, “Why does this always have to happen to me?” you’ll create a much different set of emotions than if you asked, “How can I benefit from this?” or “Where’s the gift in this?” or “What’s humorous about this?”
The language patterns you run play a significant role in the meaning you give a situation—and the emotion that situation creates in you. When you feel negative emotions taking over, look at the language surrounding your situation. How can you shift it to create a more empowering state?

#3: Focus

Where focus goes, energy flows. And where energy flows, whatever you’re focusing on grows. In other words, your life is controlled by what you focus on. That’s why you need to focus on where you want to go, not on what you fear. When you next find yourself in a state of uncertainty, resist your fear. Shift your focus toward where you want to go and your actions will take you in that direction.
Understanding—and influencing—your Triad is the first step toward emotional mastery. When you can influence your emotions using the Triad, you can choose to spend more time in positive, resourceful emotional states. From these states, you’ll make the decisions that will help you reach your highest potential and enjoy your life in every moment.


Saturday, 8 November 2014

How can you hit a target you dont even have?"

You can’t hit a target you don’t even have. That’s where setting goals comes into play. Goals in life are important and everyone knows this. Yes everyone does, but by lack of interest or by choice the average person sleep walks through life following the lines of least resistance as a “wandering anybody” rather than a “Meaningful Somebody”. If you want to be a “Meaningful Somebody” setting goals is paramount. We believe that life has no remote, it is up to you to get up and change it yourself. Setting and then working to achieve your goals is what allows you to change your life. Goals will give your life a direction, it will be the juice that will enable you to become a MEANINGFUL SOMEBODY.

 Man reaching the finish line
The real life story of Michael highlights the importance of setting goals and how it can help you to achieve what once seemed impossible. Here is Michael’s story by his daughter and my good friend Fiona’s own words:
“In 1989 my father found himself sitting in the bath and realizing he couldn’t wiggle his big toes any more, this lead to a trip to the Doctor, and eventually to this immobility spreading up through his legs as cancer of the spine spread through his body. He was in a wheel chair for a year, putting all his strength into getting better. He was 49 and had so many things he still wanted to do, there were mountains to climb, businesses to be run, the expanse of the sky to marvel at and children to see grow up. I was 9 at the time, and my father made a goal of seeing in 10 more years of his life, to tick some things off his bucket list, and see his youngest child through to adulthood. So he had a grand goal, throw out the wheelchair and see me and my brothers and sisters through our childhood for the next 10 years, send us on our way into the world.
Little by little the wheel chair was left aside, the bed was moved upstairs which required a gruelling stair challenge every night, but the reward of a comfortable bed and loving partner to hold him if he made it up. The wheel chair was traded for crutches, crutches for a walking stick, walking stick for running shoes and he was off. Back and better than ever. There was the bucket list to tend to. Michael did the Coast to Coast, coming last the first time, but completing it by himself. He then trained hard for the next year and significantly bet his previous time. There were marathons to run, family to love, picnics in the park to be had. He was a successful businessman, father to 5 children, he began writing a book, taught classics to secondary school children, started a life coaching business.


Ten years came and went in the flash of an eye, then news hit that the cancer had returned. Within 6 weeks of the initial diagnosis it had completely taken over his body and he died on summer solstice 1999. I was 19, he had seen his youngest child through to adulthood. He had achieved his goal.”
I hope it inspires you as much as it inspired me and you share it with family and friends to highlight the importance of setting goals and working towards achieving them.
Decide and make the most of every single moment. Do not let another minute, day or week go by without living the life of your dreams. You will face difficulties on your way, but make a decision now that no matter what happens, you will never ever give up the dream of living a life that matters. Decide what you want, why you want it and make a plan to achieve it. BEGIN NOW!
To your success,
Amit & Sri

Tuesday, 4 November 2014

The Morning Makeover!

 The Morning Makover

The difficult thing about mornings for most of us is simply just getting up! Instead of going out for a run, reading, reflecting, meditating or developing ourselves in some capacity, we are lured back to the warmth and coziness of our bed.   Yes, the soft mattress is ever so seductive but we really do throw away precious time which we can use to better ourselves. Most of us have a ‘Snooze’ relationship with our alarm clock, where we try and stay in the bed as long as we possibly could before we have to drag ourselves out of the bed to go to the job that we do not love and/or tackle the life that we don’t like etc etc.
As Tony Robbins says ‘You will get a lousy answer, if you ask yourself a lousy question”. Likewise a lousy start to your morning means a lousy day ahead. So really start living consciously now :-) Make it a point to wake up – clap your hands – and tell yourself that today is going to be a great day!  I know this may sound like some positive thinking mumbo jumbo, but what is detailed here is about conditioning your mind, body and soul so that the centre of gravity that you live in is around happiness and joy – not anxiety, fear, worry and all those other unproductive emotions.
We recognise that mornings can be really hectic for most of us whether it’s the need to get to work early, or to get your children ready but it is still important to have “your time” first thing in the morning to get ready for the day ahead.
The morning makeover suggestions here are game changing. These suggestions are simple but if implemented will set in motion the experiences throughout the day that will help you create an exceptional life, the life that you have  always dreamed of.  Here are the three parts of what we refer to as the ’Hour of Power’, a routine to nourish your body, mind and soul. If you do not have time to go through the whole exercise, start with one ritual by giving yourself 10-15 minutes each day and then build on it. Remember that the time for self renewal is absolutely necessary for each one us.

Soul – 15 Minutes
Spend the first few minutes of your day in gratitude. Think about all the things that you are grateful for in your life. It will get rid of the anxiety and fear from your life and prevent you from focussing on the things that are missing in your life.   Then spend time meditating and reflecting on the things that you want to achieve in your life. This will engage your subconscious mind to help achieve your goals and mission. This should not take you more than 10-15 minutes, so go ahead and give your soul the nourishment that it needs to help you live the life of your dreams.

Body – 30 Minutes
Your body gets dehydrated while sleeping, so start your morning with a glass of water with lemon and do some form of physical activity like running, strength training or get on the bike if thats your thing. Something like a light 30 minute run at a pace in which you can still talk will help get the oxygen flowing through your body without building too much lactic acid. Following this,  go and have your breakfast and ensure it’s something that’s highly nutritious – Go Green and take in as many vegetables as possible and limit the amount of acidic foods you take in i.e. Coffee, Tea.  Its all about starting the day with energy and vitality!

Mind – 15 Minutes
Now that you have looked after your body and soul it’s time to feed our mind with positive food. Read about great people, a subject of your interest or anything that will help you grow. There is always someone out there that knows more so read about them and kick start the day with inspiration!
Now the final step is to review your yearly, quarterly, monthly, weekly and daily goals that you have already planned – you’ve done them, right ;-)
Remember the ideas above are to help you give a great start to your day. You don’t have to be overwhelmed by making all the changes at once, start with a ritual that feels good to you and build on it.
Remember, this is all about having fun and feeling great! So enjoy each of these steps! Life is about the 1 percenters – small steps daily will lead to giant leaps in the long run! Remember every morning you have two choices, you either go back to sleep or wake up and chase your dreams. What are you going to choose?
Live intentionally