Showing posts with label Focus. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Focus. Show all posts
Wednesday, 17 December 2014
Tuesday, 16 December 2014
Thursday, 4 December 2014
Move Back to Love!
Notice each day whether you are choosing to live in fear or love. Fear can keep you disconnected from the loving presence inside of you. Causing fear is a tactic of the ego, whether it be your own ego or the world’s ego. The world’s ego is a reflection of individual ego power and the amount of fear that is active. Fear is present when we forget that we are a part of God’s divine design. Learning to experience authentic love means abandoning ego’s insistence that you have much to fear and that you are in an unfriendly world. You can make the decision to be free from fear and doubt and return to the brilliant light of love that is always with you. Who you really are is that unclouded love.
Here are some ideas for bringing love rather than fear into your life:
Source: http://www.drwaynedyer.com/blog/move-back-to-love/
Here are some ideas for bringing love rather than fear into your life:
- Remind yourself that God created you in perfect love that is changeless and eternal. Your body is changing, as is your mind, so you are not that body or mind. You were created as a spirit that is pure love. That is where you want to keep your attention focused.
- Forgive yourself and welcome love back into your life. When you can do this, a kind of balancing occurs. Rather than atoning for faults with guilt, you are more committed to promoting joy and service. You will begin to do what you originally came here to do.
- Notice the acts of kindness other people do rather than their shortcomings. This is how the loving presence views you. We are all good, decent, loving souls who occasionally get lost. When you can focus on the good in another and hold that in your mind, you are acting from your higher self. This can help dissipate fear and anger.
- Remind yourself of how much you have to give away and of how precious and valuable your giving is. You have the same force running through you that allows the planets to move, the earth to turn, the seeds to sprout, and the flowers to open. There is not a separate God for each person. There is one universal intelligence flowing through all of us.
- Accept that you are enough. When ego begins trying to attract you toward fear, say loudly, “I am enough!” You do not need to be anything you are not. You do not need to prove yourself. You do not need to indulge your ego with fears and to keep your real self at a distance. “I am enough” affirms that you choose to love and chase doubts and fears away.
Source: http://www.drwaynedyer.com/blog/move-back-to-love/
Monday, 1 December 2014
Friday, 21 November 2014
Give Yourself Permission to be Happy!
I love this question. I often ask my clients this. Usually they tell me they aren't very happy and it always makes me sit up straight. Why are they unhappy? What could be making them unhappy? From my perspective they have thriving businesses, healthy families, and lots of things going well for them. I know this because we start our coaching sessions with celebrations and accomplishments. So for them to later say that they aren't very happy always takes me by surprise.
It turns out they didn't get a client they thought there were going to get, their day didn't go as planned, they got a bill they forgot about, something was more money than they expected. At home, their kids aren't behaving, their husband isn't cooperating or something is going on that they don't like. Some have sickness in their families or in themselves. Whatever it is, it's bringing them down from feeling like they can be happy.
I try to teach them that their happiness is directly related to how they feel about themselves and the world around them. It's how they see all the things that are in their life (or not) and how they feel about them. And this goes for you too.
Say you are trying to lose weight, and are taking steps to do so, but are not seeing much progress. Yet your gym buddy is shedding the pounds faster than you can say "hey". In this scenario you might feel bad about yourself, which in turn will make you feel like you are not happy. But wait a minute... what if you were to congratulate your gym buddy, be happy for her and be happy with what you have accomplished so far? Do you think that might shift you away from feeling bad? You bet! What happens is you now take the focus off of her and the judging of yourself off of you, and put your attention on yourself and what you have done.
Happiness really comes from our feelings, which comes sometimes from our perceptions, thoughts, beliefs, patters, behaviors and experiences.
Stop for a moment and ask yourself, "In this moment, what am I feeling?" One of the things that I have been practicing, as well as sharing with my clients -- and pretty much everyone because I think it's so impactful -- is a line in Eckhart Tolle's book the Power of Now. He says "Focus your attention on the Now and tell me what problem you have at this moment." It's insightful because if you truly focus on the Now, you can't have a problem. A problem usually is born when we are in the future and thinking about what might happen to us or others.
In order to be happy more of the time, be in your present moment because that is all you have. If you have a moment that isn't to your liking, then do something about it. Make a change, take an action, do something. Simply by changing how we think and feel, we can change the experience we have.
Let me give you an example. I had a relative that was sick for a long time -- I'm talking months in and out of the hospital. Things needed to be done, meetings held with the medical staff, organization of personal bills, and care for the house and such. There were a lot of drop-everything-and-race-to-the-hospital moments. It was stressful and, no, I was not happy for many reasons. My relative whom I love was sick and in pain, I had to put my own life and business on hold for days sometimes, and I had to say no to a lot of opportunities both in my personal life and business because we needed to care for our relative. So when I asked myself if I was happy, the answer was no.
Then I realized I was not living in my Now! Instead I was living in the land of the "what ifs" -- and not the what-if-something-great-happens. I recognized that I never have a problem in my Now. My problems arise when I set foot outside of Now and go into Future. I realized I could be happy when I went the hospital and that absolutely helped my sick relative as I wasn't bringing all my doom and gloom in when I visited. Of course, it helped me feel better and all of a sudden, things around me started to look better.
We only have one life to live. It's important for us to remember that we are the driver of our life and we have a right to be as happy as the next person. So pay attention to your feelings, your thoughts, your actions... and take note. "Am I happy? What do I need to let go of in order to be happy? Is it a feeling? Is it a thought? Is it an action?"
Today, give yourself permission to be happy -- as happy as you want -- because it's the greatest gift you give to yourself, those around you and the world.
It turns out they didn't get a client they thought there were going to get, their day didn't go as planned, they got a bill they forgot about, something was more money than they expected. At home, their kids aren't behaving, their husband isn't cooperating or something is going on that they don't like. Some have sickness in their families or in themselves. Whatever it is, it's bringing them down from feeling like they can be happy.
I try to teach them that their happiness is directly related to how they feel about themselves and the world around them. It's how they see all the things that are in their life (or not) and how they feel about them. And this goes for you too.
Say you are trying to lose weight, and are taking steps to do so, but are not seeing much progress. Yet your gym buddy is shedding the pounds faster than you can say "hey". In this scenario you might feel bad about yourself, which in turn will make you feel like you are not happy. But wait a minute... what if you were to congratulate your gym buddy, be happy for her and be happy with what you have accomplished so far? Do you think that might shift you away from feeling bad? You bet! What happens is you now take the focus off of her and the judging of yourself off of you, and put your attention on yourself and what you have done.
Happiness really comes from our feelings, which comes sometimes from our perceptions, thoughts, beliefs, patters, behaviors and experiences.
Stop for a moment and ask yourself, "In this moment, what am I feeling?" One of the things that I have been practicing, as well as sharing with my clients -- and pretty much everyone because I think it's so impactful -- is a line in Eckhart Tolle's book the Power of Now. He says "Focus your attention on the Now and tell me what problem you have at this moment." It's insightful because if you truly focus on the Now, you can't have a problem. A problem usually is born when we are in the future and thinking about what might happen to us or others.
In order to be happy more of the time, be in your present moment because that is all you have. If you have a moment that isn't to your liking, then do something about it. Make a change, take an action, do something. Simply by changing how we think and feel, we can change the experience we have.
Let me give you an example. I had a relative that was sick for a long time -- I'm talking months in and out of the hospital. Things needed to be done, meetings held with the medical staff, organization of personal bills, and care for the house and such. There were a lot of drop-everything-and-race-to-the-hospital moments. It was stressful and, no, I was not happy for many reasons. My relative whom I love was sick and in pain, I had to put my own life and business on hold for days sometimes, and I had to say no to a lot of opportunities both in my personal life and business because we needed to care for our relative. So when I asked myself if I was happy, the answer was no.
Then I realized I was not living in my Now! Instead I was living in the land of the "what ifs" -- and not the what-if-something-great-happens. I recognized that I never have a problem in my Now. My problems arise when I set foot outside of Now and go into Future. I realized I could be happy when I went the hospital and that absolutely helped my sick relative as I wasn't bringing all my doom and gloom in when I visited. Of course, it helped me feel better and all of a sudden, things around me started to look better.
We only have one life to live. It's important for us to remember that we are the driver of our life and we have a right to be as happy as the next person. So pay attention to your feelings, your thoughts, your actions... and take note. "Am I happy? What do I need to let go of in order to be happy? Is it a feeling? Is it a thought? Is it an action?"
Today, give yourself permission to be happy -- as happy as you want -- because it's the greatest gift you give to yourself, those around you and the world.
Kim Ravida, ACC, ELI-MP is the owner and founder of Kim Ravida Coaching. Kim is a Certified Profit First Professional and Small Business Secret Weapon Business Coach who works with women in business to take a customized approach to create a business that fits their lifestyle, has them seeing a monthly profit and operating from a position of confidence so that they experience more success and less stress.Find free resources at http://kimravida.com/resources/.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Kim_Ravida Thursday, 20 November 2014
Get on Top of Your Stress and Anxiety!
Master Your Emotional Health and Master Your Life
Emotional mastery is the key to living a life that you direct. The capacity to have absolute direct power over what you feel in every single moment—no matter what happens around you—is one of the most important skill sets you can have.
There are three forces in the world that determine what you feel. These forces are called the Triad. Together, these three patterns create any—and every—emotional state.
Whatever you feel, you’re not feeling it because you have to feel it. You’re feeling it because you’ve chosen from the Triad. In order to master your emotions and consciously choose the emotions you want to live in, you need to understand these three forces and how to use them to your advantage.
#1: Physiology
Emotion is created by motion. Whatever you’re feeling right now is directly related to how you’re using your body. If you slump your shoulders and lean your head forward, you’ll move toward a state of depression. However, the next time you find yourself in a negative state, stand up, throw your shoulders back and take a few deep breaths. You’ll find that you’re able to put yourself in a resourceful state. From this state, you can make stronger decisions and enjoy a sense of certainty that will keep you calm in the face of uncertainty.#2: Language
Language comes in many forms, one of which includes the questions you ask yourself, either aloud or inside your head. If you ask, “Why does this always have to happen to me?” you’ll create a much different set of emotions than if you asked, “How can I benefit from this?” or “Where’s the gift in this?” or “What’s humorous about this?”The language patterns you run play a significant role in the meaning you give a situation—and the emotion that situation creates in you. When you feel negative emotions taking over, look at the language surrounding your situation. How can you shift it to create a more empowering state?
#3: Focus
Where focus goes, energy flows. And where energy flows, whatever you’re focusing on grows. In other words, your life is controlled by what you focus on. That’s why you need to focus on where you want to go, not on what you fear. When you next find yourself in a state of uncertainty, resist your fear. Shift your focus toward where you want to go and your actions will take you in that direction.Understanding—and influencing—your Triad is the first step toward emotional mastery. When you can influence your emotions using the Triad, you can choose to spend more time in positive, resourceful emotional states. From these states, you’ll make the decisions that will help you reach your highest potential and enjoy your life in every moment.
References
http://training.tonyrobbins.com/
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